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Friends

Talking to Close Friends

See also "Talking to peers."

What I can do is what I have been doing in the last few weeks. I think before I speak in reference to a non-white. I mention to my friend the oddity of the “I’m not racist, but—” statement she makes. (Allison Calhoun, Beaverton, OR, USA, 2001)

If it is a person that you want to invest some time in you can respond with "That's a very interesting statement; tell me more," and calmly let the speaker talk himself into ridiculousness. (JS, Washington, DC, 1987)