Bullheaded

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So exactly how do I . . .

. . . deal with catcalls?(Click here.)

. . . talk to close friends?

Communication techniques for the bullheaded.

So exactly how do I . . .
. . . talk to my peers?(Click here.)
. . . talk to my parents?
. . . bear witness to the actions of authorities?
. . . challenge authorities?
. . . change institutions?
. . . talk to my boss
. . . deal with customers who act out?
. . . intervene with shopkeepers?
. . . educate teachers?
Does kindness count?
Communication techniques that help others to accept your comments.
What about inter-ethnic mistreatment?
Using humor.
The power to name.

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	Bullheaded Communication techniques for the bullheaded See also "Communication techniques that help others to accept your comments," "Talking to Close Friends," and "Using humor." When you hear a sexist joke, and are feeling uncomfortable about confrontation, you can at least refrain from laughing...the speaker will notice. As you become more courageous you can tell the speaker how you feel when he degrades women. One of the most effective responses is to state "That's unacceptable" or "That's not OK." When he comes back with another line directed at women or at you say, "That's unacceptable." If you keep on like a stuck record you will eventually wear him down because he needs to be creative and you don't. (Jack C. Straton, Portland, OR, USA, 1989) One member of the D.C. Coalition for a Hassle-free Zone came back to a training with the following story in 1987 or so: "I was walking through a neighborhood and a man on his porch whistled at me. I responded with our stock phrase, 'That's harassment! I don't like it, no woman does!' He turned to the woman sitting next to him and asked, 'What did she say?' Her response: 'She said, "Shut up!"'." (Jack C. Straton, Portland, OR, USA, 2001)